THE CONCEPT OF SUICIDE

“Don’t do suicide. It is done by weak people. It is done by those people who have given up already. It is done by cowards. It is done by those people who don’t want to face any troubles.” These are the advices or seem to be helpful phrases that are frequently said to those people who are going to do suicide. Similarly, after when a person does commit suicide then the people start to give another lectures to that dead body saying the following phrases, “What did you give your parents by committing suicide? Why did you commit suicide for those things that are not even worth your value or level? What did you gain by committing suicide? Did your parents raise you for this incident to happen? You gave nothing but a lot of shame and tear to your parents. You won’t get anywhere by committing a suicide but only you will get disrespect. Your life doesn’t even have any value nor will you get respect for your deeds from anyone.”

We often hear the above phrases when someone commits a suicide.

But those words and meanings are only reasonable for the person who is speaking it but not for the person who is going to do suicide. There might be a few chance that when a person who is in the verse of committing a suicide may stop that mindset after listening above lectures. But the real pain to lead them to commit suicide is only known by that person and no one else.

Now, let’s discuss something about the life.

First of all, every living thing wants to live forever. Not only that, but the living thing also wants other living things connected to it to live forever as well. We often see that there are a lot of people who are relatives or friend of a person, crying a lot for the dead body of that person. A person do not want to leave this body or don’t want to die simply without any reason. Even if there are a lot of reason to die, the person struggles to save the life but not to die. Nobody wants to die while living. Everyone wants to continue living in this temporary body even if it gets weak during the old age. Even in that old aged body, they want to continue living no matter whether that body is suffering from various pains, diseases, weaknesses, etc. They don’t want to die even in that good for sacrifice old body. So, if everyone wants to live then why are they doing suicide? Doing suicide is not that they simply want to give up living but something else that is forcing them to leave this world.

If somebody is forced to get out of work while working in a company then what would s/he do? They didn’t want this uncertainty to happen. But they were forced to leave their good employment against their favor. The same kind of thing is happening with life.

Death is something like murder. If a person dies because of other person then it becomes murder. If that person dies because of own then it becomes self-murder (i.e. what people call it a suicide.). It is only the word that is differentiating the meaning of death but the actual meaning of death is death i.e. the detachment of soul from the body. If it is done by other person then that murderer person will get punishment. Similarly, if it is done by own then that person won’t get any punishment but only disrespectful statements. It depends upon people about how they will describe suicide. There are different people and they have different ways of thinking. Some might think that suicide is right whereas other might think that suicide is wrong. But the right and wrong nature of suicide is decided by that person who is going to do such thing. The person who is going to do suicide knows that it is right and it is my only best friend who is going to protect me from various problems that is currently ruining my life. Beside that, no one else in this world knows that suicide is good for that person. Everyone will think that suicide is wrong for that person but that person is already accepting suicide as his/her best friend.

The world is a good singer. Unfortunately, it doesn’t have any melody in its song. It will always put people in dilemma by singing its confusing songs. If a person wants to do suicide then this world will sing by going against that person's decision of committing suicide. It will forbade the person to commit suicide. Similarly, we often hear that if a person tries to beg for money then the world will sing by going against it. It will start to sing to not beg but to work and earn. When a person start working then it will again start singing about that person’s working environment like salary, value, level, status, respect, etc. When a person start to earn more money and status, then again it will start singing by commenting about the person’s superior attitude, superior manner and behavior, superior talking style etc. It will somehow try to pull the leg of the person who is trying to move forward. This world will never see the buffalo in its body but will always see the louse in other’s body.

Whatever is happening in one’s life can’t be known by other person with same feelings and emotions. Similarly, when a person is suffering mentally then it becomes very hard to tackle those mental problems by own. It is a war with psyche and we all know that the psyche is very strong.

Every people is different. Their emotion and feelings are also different. Likewise, their tolerance capacity is also different. If we hit a person with a small stone then that person might feel pain in a small degree. Similarly, if we hit another person with that small stone then that person might feel pain in large degree. Some people have very high self-respect and might get stressed in small thing also. Whereas some people have small self-respect and do not mind in anything about what other people are telling. Some people have high tolerance capacity and could handle many obstacles very easily and some people have small tolerance capacity and cannot handle insults or any obstacles very easily.

 Despite having various tolerance power and capacity there are a lot of situations that life will show to different person. A person with high tolerance capacity might face even harder and complex environment of problem and might lose the capacity to tackle the problem. Whereas some people with low tolerance capacity might live life happily since there are no such kind of situations to be faced off. Life gives different situations to different people.

There will be some situations which compels people to commit suicide. Since they haven’t gotten any kind of training to face those situations and they are not getting any solution by themselves. Human brain always tries to protect the human body. But at some situations, the human brain also cannot find any solution and the ultimate solution becomes the suicide.

When these suicidal situations grab the root of life and do not show any symptom of leaving, then the person commits suicide. And other people will become philosopher for that dead body. Since those people haven’t faced the same degree of trauma and stress like that of the person who have committed suicide, they will never stop giving philosophy lectures even to that dead body. A person commits suicide because worst environment compels him/her to do so, otherwise they also wanted to live like other people.

Suicide is described by different people in their own language.

In my language, suicide is not something that everybody wants. It is something that is done by those people who don’t have any other option left. They will be forced to do such thing. In our Pauraanik Kathaa, when Sati Devi went to attend the yagya of her father Dakshya Prajapati, then he insulted SatiDevi’s husband Bhagwan Shiva. SatiDevi was aadisakti who had power to cut that Dakshya’s head and throw it into the yagya but she couldn’t do such thing, since Dakshya was SatiDevi’s father. And he was insulting her husband Bhagwan Shiva. She couldn’t listen about her husband’s insults from the mouth of her own father and she jumped into the yagya and gave up her life.

Now, for those people who tell “suicide is done by weak people and you should face your problem instead of committing suicide.” They should know that Sati Devi was aadi Shakti and wife of Bhagwan Shiva. She had the power and was capable to cut the throat of that person who was insulting her husband. But still she couldn’t do so, because the person who was insulting her husband was her own father. Now, the environment became worst. She couldn’t stand listening the insults of her beloved husband and couldn’t do anything to her father, since her father himself was insulting her husband. So, she couldn’t find any solution except giving up her life to the fire.

Sometime there will be those situations in front of people which they can’t control and can’t even survive in that situation but to give up. And this giving up is what other people think that weak people will do. Suicide needs a lot of courage to attempt. Nobody wants to leave this world very easily. Everyone wants to live but the worst environment will compel them to commit suicide.

But, it is not something that should be done. A person's wisdom and knowledge protects from all the worst situations. But, when the worst comes, then the knowledge and wisdom fail to get into the head of the person and the person could only see the worst situation. So, if in the mean time if someone makes them to realize the courage and knowledge of struggles and tackle the situation, then suicide might stop but, if that person don't get such advices in the mean time, then the situation might get worst.

Why suicide is not the solution and one should struggle to tackle the worst situation, leaving the mentality of suicide?

So, if someone does suicide, then its going to be literally very very difficult in afterlife. According to our religious text, the soul then gets to "pret yoni". Now, in pret yoni there is only soul in the form of air. It can't get shade to protect itself from sunlight, no water to drink, no food to eat, air blows it from one place to another, etc. In simple view, the pret yoni is only related with pain and sufferings like a drifter. Also, the situation is more fearful over there. After that, the soul won't get human body for more than several Kalpas (1Kalpa = 4arab 32 crore years).

So, try to face the situation. And remember this every time 

उमा कहहुँ अनुभव अपना

सत् हरि भजन जगत् सब सपना

                                 - रामचरित मानस

remember that this world is just a dream. Like how difficulties and hardships arrive in one's life even not having any expectation and struggle for them, in similar manner, happiness and pleasent situations also arrive in one's life without any expectations and struggles for them. So, every day remember that this world is just a dream. Then during the hardships this practice will save one from thinking negative things and motivates them to struggle against the difficult situations.